I've been worried about being a good mother. After all, if my kids are fighting all the time, isn't it a bad thing if I can't resolve their problems?
Spent an hour in Borders reading about cat psychology. Bottom line: if I shower less attention to Boy, the bullying by Sam, Buffy, and Tux should cease.
It was dreadful watching Tux swat Boy off his usual chair in the living room and then triumphantly leap onto the show cabinet. Even worse, to call out at Boy later, who was hiding under the printer table and he just stared at me sadly.
If he wasn't a senior cat, I would have gladly left the cats to sort it out themselves. But as it is, even the books advise to keep your older cats stress-free and not bullied by the younger ones. Conflicting advice, unfortunately.
Hence I am sitting here at 1.34am typing this. Happily, Boy came out from under his printer table and returned to his favourite spot on the study couch head to sleep. Sam attempted to harrass him, leapt at him once but failed then leapt onto the arm and they had a staring match. Sam backed down, looked away and left. Boy has since nodded off contentedly and Sam took his battle up with Buffy, howling when he lost yet again. The naughty boy just walked back into the study and thankfully, past Boy without disturbing him, probably in search of Tuxie for a comforting hug. :)
I guess what I really needed was to observe them for a while and also reassure them that I am around and I love them. It reassures me that they are okay and are happy.
I thought of building them a cat tree. It would certainly ease tensions with a new member of the family joining us soon. Let me study some blueprints...
Greedy Tuxie chews into every plastic bag just for the chance that it may have food inside! Since then we make sure plastic bags are out of reach or are without food. Recently, he ate a rubber band, which fortunately he pooed out. It stuck out of his bum like fish poo and as his Dad held him, I grabbed a tissue and yanked it out. The naughty boy yelped as the rubber band rebounded and thwacked his bum some, but then he was off and running with his lover-cat Sam as if it never happened. :)
The other night the kids left me a cockroach gift placed in the perfect centre of my folded jeans on the floor. I thanked them for it, but noted they may have felt a bit unappreciated when I didn't quite embrace it (or put it in my mouth as Sam normally does). It was gone after a while, but not before I took a few photos of their thoughtful gift. :D
Meanwhile, Boy has in the last 2 weeks been uncharacteristically attached to me. He would follow me around (although not all the time but more than usual) and stay with me in whatever room I am in. He even howled at night and in the mornings several times as if he was disoriented. I got up to soothe him but he ran from me.
In the last 2 days I noticed Buffy and Sam chasing and swatting him intermittently. This ragging had happened before but not so frequently and him not reacting so strongly. It is odd because they all occasionally sniff Boy and sometimes even lick him but I am perplexed about why they've been upsetting him so much recently. I know with Buffy and Sam, it is about fighting for hierarchy. But the frequency is quite disturbing.
Last night was the same. Boy followed me around and at bedtime, followed me into the bedroom where he happily slept by our feet and didn't budge till his Dad got up in the morning. He seemed fine this morning and didn't send me off to work as he sometimes does.
His Dad reckons I have been giving Boy too much preferential treatment which Buffy and Sam are upset about. I guess it hasn't helped that I have been away. No more... at least till delivery. Let's see if things settle down soon.
Kaku, on the other hand, has been more confident, and even joined us to watch TV twice in the last week. Lately she has also taken to sitting with Boy (albeit on opposite ends of the couch head) on his couch in the study. They look very content and so alike together! She's also stopped by to say hi to me several times, usually in the bathroom and once in the bedroom by my bed. She'd go "reow!" and then roll over on her back, looking at me for a pet.
I read that cats between the ages of 2-4 years are in the stage of their life when they are gaining social maturity. That may explain Buffy and Sam's fight for dominance with Boy and with each other, and also Kaku's delightful coming of age. She overcomes her fear of us whenever we're home for a long period. It is awesome to behold as parents. :D
Like its mother, BB has been up all night with me, nudging and
shifting. I haven't been making much noise (it can hear me speak now)
so it must be restless too. My tum has grown so much in the past 4
weeks I can't see my toes anymore nor bend down very well. No more
pretzelling.
I can't say the chocolates kept me up, or the damnable TCP/IP problem,
or the many things I needed to do that I have just completed. Haven't
fixed the TCP/IP problem on the other computer yet, but have sent out a
call for help. Finished some work. Replied some emails. Caught up on
the buzz.
My skin isn't itchy anymore - not right now anyway, my ankles are still
a bit sore and Hobbit-like, my tum feels like it needs a bra, the
occasional sleeplessness (this time exacerbated by jet lag too) but
sans the nasal stuffiness and nausea now, pregnancy feels better in the
6th month. I can't wait to see BB again during the next scan. :)
Joss Whedon's classic SF movie finally reached my grubby paws. Watched
it with the hub who was hooked within the first few minutes when he
hollered "Rewind!". The introduction, brilliantly choreographed, caught
us hook, line, and sinker. From the start, we were engaged.
With typical Buffy humour and lingo, Mal the captain of Serenity leads
the story with gusto and oomph. He's like Angel but way better looking
without the permanent brood and has a sense of humour. His two new crew
members River and Simon are hiding a secret - River is wanted by the
Alliance (aka government) because she knows something they don't want
her to tell. Things get hairy after a bank robbery. River is a
guileless combo of Buffy and Dawn, but with powers that surface when
triggered. Is she a government weapon or a power on her own?
Super fight scenes, funny fight scenes. Sharp and snappy lines. Great
acting by the cast, two of whom are Buffy and Angel alum. Mal was the
preacher man in Season 7 of Buffy, while Zoe was the evil god in Angel
Season 4. Ironic how two huge baddies in the series got to be the
heroes of the movie. :) But then again, Mal and Zoe are rebels of the
universe. No bad there.
A must-see for every Whedon fan, SF fan, or really just anyone who loves a fun and original movie.
After being away for a week it is good to be home. :)
Last
night, Kaku sat with me and talked a while. I asked her how she was and
she meowed back. We sat together till Sam came to invite her to play
Catching. Today she was benevolent and allowed me to pet her while she
napped on a dining chair, but refused to pose when I tried to take her
photo.
Boy hung out with me most of the day, coming over
for a hug. I took the opportunity to inspect his claws and quickly trim
one overgrown one. The rest were simply overjoyed to see me back (one
more parent to feed them!). Sam and Tux lay on the couch with last
night, giving us perhaps a too-intimate live viewing of their
relationship!
While we watched CSI, Kaku came by for a visit. As she left the room
shortly after, she seemed suddenly enthralled by the TV and actually
sat down in front of it watching for about 3 minutes, her head darting
back and forth at the fast-moving images before running back into the
study. This is not the first time she's watched TV with us, and it is
always a such a delightful sight. :D
"Blood vessels develop in its lungs and its plugged nostrils begin to open."
I hope it doesn't get lousy sinuses like its Dad and I.
"Its hearing will be developed enough to respond to outside sounds and voices, and it may jump at sudden noises."
Ok time to watch the language. :p And speak in complete sentences. And play nice soothing music.
With sleeping, here is what they say:
"While there's no risk caused by sleeping on your right, lying on your
left side will improve the flow of blood and nutrients to the placenta
and help your kidneys eliminate more efficiently. When your kidneys are
working efficiently, you are less likely to have swelling in your
ankles, feet, and hands."
Moral of the story, sleep on the left.
On manicures (which I don't bother doing) and hair dyes...
"It's wise to be cautious about exposing yourself to any chemical (even
furniture polish) while you are pregnant, but you can still colour your
hair or polish your nails without concern. When using any chemical,
including nail polish, just be sure to do so in a well-ventilated
room."
*Caramel tastes amazing! *Incubating a human is the closest thing to incubating an alien. *My cats make me beam. *Rice is anathema to weight control. *Buy one pack of candy to test for QC before buying 2 more! *Caramel tastes amazing!
How do you know it is a kick, punch, or head-butt, and not just a cramp?
According to Miriam Stoppard, it is like bubbles bursting against your insides.
I felt a couple of bubbles yesterday but this morning when I woke, it
was more pronounced. When I turned to my left, the bubbles were on my
left side (head-butt). When I turned to my right, the bubbles burst on
my right side (kick or knee-butt). Then there was the random bubbling
at the top (punches). :D
Later, I told the hub about it and
he came by to loiter some. I lay on my right side and he placed his
hands under to hopefully feel a random kick. Turns out it was his own
hand shaking under my weight. Suddenly BB kicked. I asked him, did you
feel that? And he said yes! That's a kick! And he beamed proudly.
"To be without some of the things you want is an indispensable part of happiness." -- Bertrand Russell
"Non-violence leads to the highest ethics, which is the goal of all evolution. Until we stop harming all other living beings, we are still savages."
-- Thomas Edison (Harper's Magazine, 1890)